How to Communicate with the Woman You Want to Date, Part 5

No woman in her right mind wants to be around a man who feels dejected, depressed, and has totally given up in life. If you believe you are a winner, then others will believe it too. Never, under any circumstances, get mean or hostile with anyone while out in public. You don't want to develop a reputation for being a hot head. A bad reputation, especially when it comes to being negative towards women, will get around. Always, always, always be friendly and upbeat. Before you know it, there will be women in groves wanting to be your friend, especially that woman of your dreams. Restaurants are great places to meet beautiful women especially when they are in groups, seated with their girlfriends. Now I know that you are saying, "What?" Trust me. Everyone thinks that trying to meet women, when they are with their girlfriends, is a waste of time and next to impossible. It's just the opposite, and I'll explain why. Most women, who are eating out, are indirectly looking for excitement. When you approach the woman of your choice, who appeals to you, it will enhance that excitement 10 fold. Regardless of what they talked about before, you will now become the topic of discussion. Depending on how you play it, this will work for you or against you. This is where you must step up to the next level and go for it. If you show charm and poise in front of a group of women and do it with style and grace, then you are going to score so many points with these women that your head will spin. Another advantage to meeting women in groups is that they will feel more secure in talking with you. They are a whole lot bolder in a group than they are in a one-on-one situation. An upbeat, casual chit-chat can spark a potential dating relationship to no-end. Now you are still zeroing in on one person at a time, but this time you have an audience. They will either support your advances towards Miss Right or shoot them down. This is why you have to be a gem to everyone involved, but an extra gem to the one you want. Good social skills in this situation are a must. You can't be uptight with a group of girls and say, "Da," or they'll laugh in your face. You need to develop the art of being a good conversationalist. So if you are lacking in this department, as most men are, I suggest you do something about it. What women want in a man is someone who can communicate, and one they can have good conversations with. Guys who just stand there, with nothing to say to a woman they are interested in, will end up dateless. No one said the art of dating a woman is going to be easy, but it will be rewarding. You need to make the effort to talk to her. If you are not a talker, and I know that there are people who just don't like to gab under any conditions, you will have to force yourself to talk. So your next best thing is to ask her morally-sound questions about herself. Women, as a rule of thumb, love talking about their jobs. Just be sure you are a good listener, and you are interested in what she is talking about. So guys, there are no excuses as far as finding a way to communicate with her. She wants, she thrives, and she thirsts for men who can communicate with her. I can't stress it enough! So now that we have that down pat, we need to come up with a plan of attack to capture these drop-dead, gorgeous women. If a woman looks at you and smiles, realize that this is your green light to meet her now. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, and you want to meet her, take the initiative. You first make eye contact locking your eyes with hers and smile. If she doesn't look away from you and she smiles back at you, say, "Hi, my name is Dave. What's yours?" After she gives you her name, then shake hands with her and say, "It's nice to meet you, Debbie." This breaks the ice for a conversation of small talk. Be certain to use her name often because this gives her the feeling of getting to know you and it becomes more personable. You ask her, "Debbie, do you work in the area?" She'll tell you where she works, and this is good. You need to know that. You say, "Oh, that's great, Debbie! Would you be interested in joining me for a cup of coffee?" "Sure Dave," she replies. You keep the conversation rolling with, "Well, great Debbie. How does Starbucks sound?" She responds, "Great Dave." So you arrange a date with her for coffee. If she says, "I can't right now," then ask, "Well how about another time?" She says, "Ok." Ask her, "Well, would next week be good for you?" She says, "Sure." You say, "Great Debbie. Then would Tuesday be good for you or is Wednesday better?" She replies, "Dave, Tuesday sounds great." Then you make sure by asking, "Debbie, may I have your phone number at work to confirm meeting you on Tuesday at Starbucks." "Sure Dave," she replies. Finish the conversation with something like, "Ok Debbie, I'll see you next Tuesday." So one hour before your date, you call to confirm meeting her. Now if she says, "No" to everything, just thank her for her time and try the same icebreaking technique on someone else. Even though this way of meeting appears tough, you must keep in mind that you are going after, for the most part, women who are the cream of the crop. You are pursuing quality women that 95% of the men out there wouldn't even think about. Socialites and barflies are a total waste of time because you are dealing with empty-headed women with no real desire or direction in life. Quality, hard-to-get women are the only way to go in seeking an ideal and long-lasting relationship.

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